Bulimia is the exit strategy for a diet that doesn’t have one. We start a restrictive diet and after entraining yourself to the degree you have around restricting foods, good foods, bad foods, all foods you have lost all control of discerning what the appropriate way to eat is. It’s just out of control.
Diets don’t work, and people keep trying them. When you can’t stop and you won’t listen to your inner voice that is making suggestions about time to eat….
Bulimia takes over and you eat and eat, and eat until you vomit. Some of the food comes back up and some stays, enough to keep you alive. Maybe it’s time for a new strategy. I have one. Listen to the voices that tell you to eat and eat six small meals a day, proteins first, and then there are no voices, and there doesn’t need to be a bulimia either.
Simply don’t chase hunger, it gets way out in front of you and binging starts. Food is just fuel and it’s time to stop resisting the fuel and help your body live and thrive.
We start with the hunger voices…what are they saying? How long ago did you eat? What did you eat? Either you listen at this level when things are still calm or the monster that has the “appetite of an ox” returns.
This one thing will change your life. We can help you take back your life from Bulimia for the last time!
7 Signs Of Dysfunctional Eating
Everywhere you look today, you can find an example of the perfect body. Body image has become a huge part of American society. The quest for the perfect shape has left many people with dysfunctional eating habits and eating disorders.
If you’re concerned about your diet, or the eating habits of someone you know here are seven signs of dysfunctional eating that you should be aware of.
Preparing Food Then Not Eating It
Many times, people will prepare elaborate meals and then not eat them. Web MD list this is one of the many dysfunctional eating signs that could indicate an eating disorder. Cooking large meals and not eating them allow someone with dysfunctional eating patterns to partake in regular food preparation without consuming calories
Avoiding Eating In Front Of Others
If you know someone who chooses to eat meals alone or seems to have already eaten at family mealtimes they may be displaying a dysfunctional eating habit.
According to Health.com, avoiding eating in public or in front of other people may be a sign of an eating disorder or the precursor to an eating disorder. Many people choose not to eat in front of others because they are ashamed of either how much they eat or how little they will eat and do not wish to be judged.
Excessive exercise can be a sign of an eating disorder. While not a symptom of dysfunctional eating, excessive exercise is something that should be watched out for if dysfunctional eating is suspected.
Often people with disordered eating will only eat after they have exercised a certain amount of time, to justify the number of calories they consume.
Another sign of dysfunctional eating is having a safe foods list. Health.com talks about having safe food lists where only certain foods are considered okay to eat. These “safe” foods include fruits, vegetables, and lean meats. Very rarely do these safe foods contain high starch, carbohydrate, or fatty foods.
Disappearances of Large Amounts of Food
National Institute of Mental Health tells that in binge eating disorders people in the household will see large quantities of food disappear in short amounts of time. Another symptom of binge eating behaviour will be to find huge stashes of food wrappers in strange places. Attempting to hide the amount of food consumed by hiding the food wrappings is another way that this dysfunctional eating pattern emerges.
Keeping large volumes of food hidden and away from the eyes of people in your household is a common dysfunctional eating behaviour according to the National Eating Disorders Association.
This practice is common in bulimia nervosa as well as binge eating disorder. People with these disorders do not want others to know about the quantity of food that they consume, so they will hoard food in secret places.
Hoarding food in secret places allows them to participate in the binge behaviour without anyone knowing.
Distorted Body Image
Always talking about how fat you are or how thin someone else it can be a symptom of disordered eating according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Obsession with body image of yourself will often come in the form of thinking that you are too fat.
This distorted body image does not correlate with actual body weight. Many people with eating disorders will believe that they are fat despite having clinically underweight body fat percentages or body mass indexes.
Another symptom that could indicate disordered eating is an obsession with other people’s bodies. Often anorexics and bulimics will seek out photographs of extremely thin people as inspiration to starve or purge. This behaviour has become more prevalent with the advent of social media and is often referred to as finding “thinspiration.”
Whether current eating behaviours are part of a larger eating disorder or not, all dysfunctional eating should be taken seriously because it can lead to greater health problems, so if you suspect someone you know of having dysfunctional eating patterns, or you struggle with negative body image consults your medical professional.
CBT is considered the gold standard of treatment, and yet there are a huge number of patients not responding to treatment. Models of therapy are moving to the ACT model with the cognitive ability and incorporating FBT as a support system for long-term stability and recovery
Temperament and Character – Low self-directedness –
Associated with poor outcomes connected with CBT
Little success using CBT
Mood dependent behaviour
Moods controlling the person
PILLARS OF RECOVERY:
Values: Mindsight Connectedness
Address the psycho-biology
Train flexibility, mindfulness, meditation
Establish context of personal values – what’s important to me
Develop reflective function – connection behaviour to outcomes
Foster experience & acceptance of what is
Retraining beliefs around connections with others
Optimize traits, like empathic capabilities
Focus on the Big picture,
Flexibility, emotional acceptance and connecting with others
(reach for others, instead of THE eating disorder) de-personalize the eating disorder through retraining Language Patterns
Optimizing positive inner traits they were born with.
High harm avoidance – fear and anxiety are often part of the experience as internal systems are so depleted
Lack of Central Coherence – as the brain continues to receive fewer and fewer nutrients
Cognitive rigidity – a survival mode exists based on low nutrients
Need for control, order, predictability – lack of flexibility
Excessive control of behaviour – (rule boundedness)
Low Self Directedness – unable to manage when under their own self-direction
Excessive Experiential Avoidance – resisting attempts at recovery through trying new strategies